I need some advice. I, err… (shifts uncomfortably in chair) I’m getting back into dating after taking a break for a few *mumbles*. I need advice as to when the young lady gets inducted into the family– you know, the people who know I carry. On the one hand, I’d rather not leave a string of angry females who know I pack in my wake, but I’d also like to be able to relax and not do the “packing heat hug” all the time. Just sayin’. I also intend to avoid this situation at all costs. (I think it’d be hard for me to conceal I’m a hunter and gun owner, what with the antlers on the wall and the AR on the rack directly above the bed…)
So… thoughts?
TBG
12 Jul 10 at 8:50 AM
Dude- If she has “issues” with CC she probably isn’t the one for you…
Dixie
12 Jul 10 at 12:04 PM
Oh, I agree. I just want to know how that subject gets brought up gracefully. (chuckle)
Bob S.
12 Jul 10 at 8:52 AM
Dixie,
I would recommend Steven Covey’s “Seek to Understand then Be Understood” philosophy first.
Try to find out how she feels about self defense, how she feels about the Right to Keep and Bear Arms, etc.
Given her answers to those concepts, then judge when disclose.
As you say, you can mention how much you enjoy hunting, how much you like going to the range – both to get sighted in for hunting and target practice.
Might even extend an invitation to the range and talk about pistol shooting.
Not a lot of help I know, just some ideas.
Dixie
12 Jul 10 at 12:05 PM
And good ones. Two of my close female friends are into hunting and own ARs. Maybe I can set up a Lady’s Day at the range…
Patrick
12 Jul 10 at 6:30 PM
My friend had an instance where he let it slip that he was carrying to a first-second date, after she commented that she liked firearms as her father was a cop, brother.. etc. That was the end of that. She liked guns but not concealed carry.
After that, he started asking the “what would be a deal-breaker” question on the first date. The deal breaker question is basically.. what would be the thing that you just couldn’t get over in a relationship and then he stated for him it was not liking firearms and then steers the conversation to self-defense.
Dixie
12 Jul 10 at 9:40 PM
I try to do that as pre-screening. Seriously, no leftists, no antis… period. I’m looking, not desperate. (chuckle)
Justthisguy
13 Jul 10 at 12:07 AM
Man, I feel for you, but have no help to offer, as I am one of those -socially-awkward guys who’d rather not look you in the eye, almost never gets laid, has weird mannerisms, etc. I’ll be 60 soon, and one of the few good things about that is that it enables me to view the females as mildly amusing silly people instead of un-attainable lust objects.
Oh, I can get along with some women, that is, the rational ones. They are right scarce and precious, and if you find one who likes you, be nice to her and pay attention to her. I had one like that, and failed to pay enough attention to her. She no longer answers my phone calls or emails. Sigh.
Thanks for commenting on my blog, anyway.
Dixie
13 Jul 10 at 3:07 AM
Heh. Yes, rational women are scarce. Most of the ones I know are married…
ASM826
13 Jul 10 at 7:48 AM
I would move my carry to a Thunderwear deep concealment holster. (http://thunderwear.com/holsters.asp)
If she finds that, you’re already past the awkward stage.
Dixie
14 Jul 10 at 11:13 AM
“Is that a gun in your crotch, or are you just happy to see me?”